At Command Z, we are huge fans of Charlie Sheen.
But not in a juvenile “lol, famous man is silly” kind of way.
We appreciate Charlie Sheen because he has repeatedly demonstrated transcendence in action. We even named two powerful exercises after him.
Remember a few years ago, when Charlie “went off the rails” and started talking about bi-winning and tiger blood? Several of us around here recognised great truth in his expressions.
We’ve referred to this video in some of our workshops, and it’s a good example.
The interviewer says “Your anger and your hate is coming off as erratic”. Charlie responds: “Passion. It’s all passion.” Do you see how he effortlessly dismantles her reality tunnel?
The interviewer tries again: “I think some of the things you’re putting out there are making people think something’s wrong with you.”
Charlie responds: “That has nothing to do with me… People are, I suppose, free to interpret stuff as they must. What are you a doctor of?” He reveals the interviewer, and his critics, to be incapable of clear thought, unqualified to assess him.
Now for the crowning achievement. The interviewer suggests that Charlie may be bi-polar. His response: “Wow. What does that mean? … I’m bi-winning. I win here and I win there.” Charlie demonstrates that the interviewer is vomiting labels the way a drunkard plays paintball. Then he accepts himself 100%, making himself invincible to her judgments.
While the interviewer mistakes words for reality, Charlie understands the void between the two.
Can you see that, as unhealthy as Charlie Sheen may have been at the time of that interview, he had more clarity than most people ever do? He could see straight through the interviewer, with all her fearful judgments.
Today, the spotlight is on Charlie Sheen once again. On live TV he announced that he was diagnosed HIV positive four years ago. During that time has paid blackmailers millions of dollars to keep his secret.
But no longer. Today, Charlie Sheen recognised that he was in a prison of his own making, and decided to leave it forever. He faced his fears, fighting what must have been incredible inner resistance, by going public about his condition and thereby undermining the extorters.
Charlie must have been terrified, having avoided this situation for years. Today, he gathered up his fears and walked through the fire in order to free himself. His resistance burned away in the process.
I have a sense of what Charlie must be feeling right now. Exhilarated that he not only survived, but triumphed. Astonishment that even though he was in free fall earlier today, he persists, more full of life than ever before.
Charlie Sheen’s inner victim is dead. He executed it today, live on television. Let this be an inspiring example. All the self-hating nonsense that we waste time and energy on, instead of living, can simply go.
Charlie Sheen is a patron saint of the Art of Not Giving a Fuck, and we salute him.
Command Z Gatekeeper
P.S. For just a few more days, our Art of NGF legacy workshops are available. Use the code HOLIDAYCHEER and you’ll get a chunk off. If you get any workshop, we’ll send you a very special NGF Energized Self Hypnosis mini-workshop, containing an enormously powerful technique that you won’t want to miss.
Welcome to Mika Juntunen–longtime client and friend of Command Z.
Mika hails from Finland, and was kind enough to send us a video with instructions and demonstrations of face stretching in Finnish! Plus, this awesome post explaining things below.
Hello to all our Finnish friends and clients, and thanks to Mika!
Tämä blogi käsittelee Radical Undoingia.
“Öö, jaa, niin mikä radikaali?”
Hyvä kun kysyit!
Homman nimi on laajentuminen, syvä rentoutuminen, omien sisäisten rajojen ylittäminen ja elämälle avautuminen.
Tämä tapahtuu ensisijaisesti avaamalla syvälle juurtuneita kehollisia jännityksiä. Näihin jännityksiin on tallentunut kaikki mielen konfliktit, pelot ja uskomukset. Työskentely kohdistuu siis kehoon, mutta vaikutus ulottuu syvälle mieleen asti.
Näiltä harjoituksilta voi odottaa:
Uutta, tuoretta inspiraatiota ja elämäniloa
Selkeyttä siitä mitä todella tahdot (ja et tahdo) tehdä elämälläsi ja ajallasi
Parantunutta kykyä käsitellä tunteita ja elää ilman että tunteet hallitsevat omaa päätöksentekoa
Stressin ja ahdistuksen vähentymistä ja niiden muuntamista positiiviseksi energiaksi (energialla tarkoittaen inspiraatiota ja virtaa lähteä toimimaan ja tekemään, lamaantuneisuuden sijaan)
Kykyä toimia uusilla tavoilla tilanteissa, joissa ennen olisit tiedostamatta rajoittanut itseäsi
Muita yllättäviä muutoksia..
Tiedossa työkaluja, joita säännöllisesti toistamalla voit tehdä ylemmästä listasta todellisuutta elämässäsi. Sillä ei ole väliä uskotko siihen tällä hetkellä vai et, ainoa määrittävä tekijä on tekeminen.
Joten, spekulaatiot sikseen, tässä suorilta opas yhteen tärkeimmistä undoing tekniikoista. Jos kiinnostuksesi on yhtään herännyt, tee parhaasi käyttääksesi nyt viisi minuuttia tämän harjoituksen kokeilemiseen:
Videossa esittelyssä siis naaman venyttely, erikoinen ja hauska tapa rentoutua. Suhteellisen iso osa ihmisen aivoista on keskittynyt havainnoimaan ja hallitsemaan kasvojen aluetta, verrattuna muuhun kehoon. Kasvojen alueen aktivoimisella saa siis eniten ajalleen vastinetta, eniten rentoutumista pienimmällä mahdollisella työmäärällä.
Oletko miettinyt, että tunteiden muodostumisen prosessiin voisi olla mahdollista osallistua itse?
Mister Rogers is my new hero.
But I have to be honest: I don’t really know who he is.
His TV show wasn’t shown in my country. I have no idea what it was like. And I’m not interested in finding out.
But I stumbled across a video of him that totally astonished me.
In the video below, Mister Rogers is addressing a senate subcommittee. These people are going to decide whether to fund his TV show. It’s not going well.
But then Mister Rogers does something wonderful.
He does not argue.
He doesn’t dominate or manipulate.
He doesn’t panic.
Instead, he speaks to his adversaries with total respect and acceptance.
He is fully grounded in himself.
He affords the risk of opening up and being vulnerable, since he knows he can take it.
That’s real power.
In this video, Mister Rogers comes up against a mean hardass. But he doesn’t get flustered. Mister Rogers responds by giving him a much-needed lesson in the healthy way to manage negative emotional states. It’s a lesson this senator should have learned in childhood, and desperately needs.
By showing this man that it’s okay to feel and express his rage, something he probably never heard before, Mister Rogers wins the funding.
What a fucking hero.
Take a look:
If you want a taste of the unflappable self-acceptance and grounding that Mister Rogers demonstrates, you’re in luck. We’re putting on a final live run of the legendary Command Z 4-Week Intensives. Go here now to find out more.
“You can’t just have fun all the time!”
Really? And why the f*ck not?
(censored for FB and iTunes purposes. If you feel you’re mature enough to see the whole word, please let both companies know.)
Seriously. I used the word “f*ck” in that last sentence to express the absolutely stomach-twisting, face-mangling frustration I feel when I hear people arguing against having fun.
It just blows my mind beyond anything I can possibly put into words.
Literally, sit on your deathbed with me for a moment. Right now.
Don’t avoid it. Look me in the eyes here.
You’re headed for an ending of that body of yours, and everything you thought you knew is on it’s way out of your life.
Sooner or later, it all goes away.
So stop taking it all for granted! (including all the really difficult stuff…)
On Season 4 Episode 10 of Loius (Loius CK’s brilliant TV show), Loius complains about his heartbreak to an old man on the street.
The old man is Charles Grodin, and the blistering transcendence he dumps on Loius in the clip below will melt your mind and steal your ability to complain about the beauty and richness YOU’RE IGNORING EVEN RIGHT NOW!
Yeah. It’s devastatingly beautiful.
I’d really recommend watching it a few times, just to drink up everything there to feel.
You know you’ve worn those shoes before too.
Time to celebrate?
I sure am.
There’s not a single moment that a part of me isn’t celebrating. And I’ve been through some shit…some of which I’ve talked about, much of which I haven’t (yet).
Even my most difficult and traumatic experiences have been converted into gems of delight, mystery, and enjoyment that I’d never trade away for anyone else’s life.
That brings us back to that little matter of fun.
Fun never lies.
You know whether or not you’re having fun at any given moment.
I propose that if you’re not having fun, that you ask yourself exactly why not.
The answer will always be a version of one of the following:
1. You feel limited and restricted.
2. You feel frustrated.
3. You feel uncomfortable.
If you do feel limited, frustrated, and otherwise uncomfortable, have you chosen your situation?
If not, can you escape it somehow?
If not, can you enjoy it somehow, and make it align with your deepest desires anyway?
Can you steal some of your time and life back from it? Are you willing to?
The funniest thing is that you’ll very rarely get “Yes” answers when you ask yourself if you’re having fun.
Do you know why?
Because when you’re actually having fun, you don’t stop to second-guess and question what the hell you’re doing. You’re too bust having fun.
Now that’s just ONE of the many extremely powerful tools and experiences I’ve built into the NGF Elite Training.
I’ve got the new live training almost ready to go.
I’ll send you the invite tomorrow, but mark your calendar.
Lance and I will be going live on Saturday June 20 for a special first look at the Elite NGF Training.
You’ll get a sneak peek into the actual elements of the training and adventure experience, plus get to try some of it out yourself during the show.
Next week, we’ve got something we’ve been working on since 2010, but I never thought we’d release it.
Turns out, this moment in history is perfect for it.
I’m not gonna tell you what it is quite yet, but get this:
It’s going to take you further than Leary, Crowley, Terrence Mckenna, and all the psychedelics in the world combined. (Big statement, I know. And we’re going to show you exactly how to back it up and prove it to yourself!)
Ok, I’m a little excited, so I’ll stop there before I tell you too much all at once.
If you’ve been waiting for a chance to work with me, I’d highly suggest responding to this email, or using the contact form here on the site.
This is one of your final notices/warnings, because the rare window of opportunity to work directly with me is about to close, except to a very tiny group of people. If you’re one of them, get in touch. Now’s your chance…
Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Now get out there and have some fun!
And when you’re ready to kick back and relax into some mind-melting, hypnotic podcast excellence, get on over to the NGF podcast right here:
And leave a review!
It really really helps to keep us inspired, putting out great content, and working to help you expand freedom in every aspect of your life, so take a moment and help us out…
PS: Stay awake, and pay attention! There’s beauty all around you. Leave a comment about the first beautiful thing you notice after reading this post!
Christmas can be a real challenge for many of us and it depends how much we give or don’t give a fuck about the story lines, that we will expand or limit the experiences we have.
I used to celebrate christmas with my family until I moved out from my home, 4 years ago. This year I came back and it has been a whole new experience. It has been an opportunity to share with the closest people I love, however, it can also sometimes turn into confrontation with others and mainly with my own self, lots of questioning and overthinking about my decisions, future projects, etc.
It is a time of mirroring my life and self with the characters I chose to be my family. Sometimes I feel weird and different from them, other times super connected and alike. I get scared and sad when I believe “the facts” of life such as dead or failure.
I could find these experiences as a source of enjoyment and growing or as a way to find my self as victim of the circumstances.
And it is definitely when I believe and get immersed in expectations and story lines, that is really hard to enjoy and be open to what is going on.
On the other side, when I don’t give a fuck about what I think others might be expecting from me and I don’t fight against what it is, I can really see the beauty in every aspect of my creation, I feel more motivated and empower to welcome everything and everyone with no judgments.
One of the undoing exercises that has really supported me in this process of loving without attachments and expectations is to Gag myself from beliefs, fears and blocks.
When I am noticing tension in my breathing and I feel overwhelmed, the gags are excellent to allow my solar plexus to relax and let the air flow easier, helping me to don’t get lost in useless ideas or videos in my head.
Another exercise has been to experience fully the feelings of discomfort, just like the You Meditation: Sensing and Feeling without interpretations.
Later to realize everything has been a creation of my consciousness and appreciate it as it is. In this way, I reclaim the power back and start being the owner and adventurer of my life rather than a victim of external forces.
If you feel interested in learning more of these techniques, sign up in the box below and click here to learn more about Robert Scheinfeld and how to start enjoying everything.
Finally, we’ll be putting on our final Victim to Adventurer: Radical Undoing and Energized Hypnosis workshop starting Saturday December 27, 2014. Click here to read all about it. We’ll help you shed your post-holiday blues and start living your life like the permanent adventure it can be!
From Garrett: I’d like to personally welcome Richard Abbot to the Command Z blog. It’s quite rare to hear as refreshing and inspiring a voice as Richard’s echoing from the desert of the seeker. While my personal definition of ego differs from his, I’m confident after talking with him that the disparity is semantic rather than philosophical.
Thanks again for providing us with this fresh, dynamic defense of the personal adventure of individuality. Without further introduction, take it away, Richard.
“Music never goes away. It is always available. But we are not always available to the music”
– Robert Fripp
For music, read planetary bio-feedback, ancestral DNA, precognition, Spirit, Source or the Cosmos. If you prefer then simply call it God or the Universe, but whatever name you use it amounts to the same thing – there is a tune playing, throughout your life, that only you can hear.
Your Music. Your Life.
The Music of Life is different for everyone. It is Your Music, not The Music, because none of us are able to hear the same thing. The basic fact that everyone is different rarely excites us now but it should, for we have not yet scratched the surface of what it really means. Take it on four levels.
In the body. Everyone appears externally different – fingerprints, retinal scans, facial features. Yet they are also internally different. The precise way that our bone structure knits together with our muscles differs from person to person and although we persist in categorising people by blood group, the true reality is that every individual has a unique blood signature. Michael Jackson was one hell of an entertainer, but when he sang Cause we are all the same, the blood inside of me is inside of you he was mistaken, seven billion times over.
With the emotions. Everyone sweats and cries in different ways at different times. Different triggers affect everyone differently. Regardless of the desire to focus on common responses there is no standard emotional reaction to any event.
Through the mind. It has long been known in the police force that if you take twenty witness statements at the scene of any incident you will get twenty different versions of events. Most of the differences will be subtle and at the margins, but some of them will be significant. ‘He ran toward me’ says one. ‘He did not move’ says the other. It is not that people are lying, they genuinely saw it, or more accurately they processed it differently. ‘I’ll meet you at 2pm’ she says, turning up at 2.30pm, crying out ‘I said 2.30pm, why weren’t you listening?!’ This is not a function of the quantum ideas of the observer created universe where everything is whatever we think it is. This is a function of individual difference, where everyone can see something slightly, subtly different, and is able to make a slightly different interpretation.
Invisibly. In spite of attempts by religion and politics there is really only one way to measure morals that is relative to the individual. This is not a recipe for chaos, for the crazy lone gunman does not go out and shoot the town up because of the voices in his head. He does it because of the lack of voices in his own head and the presence of voices from other people’s heads – the propaganda, the role playing, the endless comparison and blame game which he has swallowed whole.
These four kinds of individual difference combine to form the unique, irreplaceable individual that you now are. But the need to find and develop one’s own way should not be confused with selfish individualism. The truth is that by recognising and accentuating individual difference we are likely to become more peaceful and more connected. You can – potentially – do, feel, think or say a specific something, in a particular way that I cannot. If this could be recognised, and even if you have not yet fulfilled that potential then I would become immediately invested in your progress. The illusion of sameness is the root of all killing; it is done because we are persuaded that our lives do not matter. But they do, for it we lose you we lose something valuable that cannot be replicated by another. To disadvantage you is to disadvantage me.
But resistance to this idea is strong. Many people are deeply invested in their sameness, for it is a comfortable place to hide. This is especially true in revolutionary and alternative sub-cultures, who rail against orthodoxy only to land up creating their own orthodoxy! Many people see sameness and call it equality, togetherness or community, and it is the place to be if you cannot see that your contribution is any different than anyone else’s, even if you have not really tried to look.
Many people assume (because they have been told to) that there is one answer to every question and that it is a matter of getting it right, and then getting everyone to agree. Nothing could be further from the truth. Sure, truth exists, but most matters are a product of the individuals view. You would be surprised how differently people see the most mundane things. Never assume that people either agree or disagree with you.
Having said all this we must recognise that we are in the midst of a long standing war against the individual. The educational establishment is firmly wedded to rubbing out individual difference. They begrudgingly recognise differing learning styles and preach the doctrine of diversity but only as a means to an end – which is the indoctrination of all children with the same, in their world ‘right’, views. They can call this ‘common core’ or ‘national curriculum’ but it amounts to the same thing – conformity of behaviour, appearance, reaction and thought.
The medical and psych establishment have taken it one step further by their ruthless diagnosis of all deviations from proscribed norms, in turn allowing pharmaceutical companies to join the assault by selling expensive corrections to wrongness. The diagnoses are given names like ME, CFS, OCD, ADHD and Autism – wicked labels of torture people that continually redefine ‘different’ as ‘broken’.
The media supports this attack by its promotion of a manufactured professional outrage industry and even peace loving hippies have unwittingly joined in the assault proclaiming that individuality is ego and all hard edges must be rubbed out, while the corporate and academic worlds are no more pro- individual than they ever were. Statements such as ‘wear what you like to work’ are meaningless when you cannot actually wear what you like. When fear is the dominant meme you can be sure that individuality will take a back seat. And thus the Music of Your Life is extinguished.
Do What You Must, Not Just Whatever You Like
At this point I should make clear that when I speak of uniqueness I am talking about HIGHER INDIVIDUALITY, individuality with a purpose, that allows and does not restrict others individuality. Neither selfish grasping, nor dog-eat-dog, but evolutionary and expansive.
The absence of any stab at our HIGHER INDIVIDUALITY leaves a vacuum which is filled by role playing. How easily we adopt those roles and how quickly they mask our special individual contribution to life. How quickly we become merely Mum, Dad, Nurse, Doctor, Soldier, Programmer, Writer, Socialist or Conservative. The labels we scrabble for when introduced at parties block the Music that is waiting to sweep you on, for as soon as you plug into the role you cannot help but adopt the Rules of the Role, whether they are appropriate for your circumstances or not. The Music of Life will only be heard by those making an attempt to discover who they are and what they are for.
The quest for a sign along the road of life is doomed because if we are not careful they are simply confirmation biases – we see the signs we want to see, not the ones we need to see. And of course once we have passed a sign and gone down the wrong road it’s too late. It’s only in computer games that we get the message ‘you’re going the wrong way’. Signs are external, a creation of someone else, and have no bearing on your life, except to conform it to others’ requirements.
Check Your Ego
Ego is as prevalent in the poor and needy as it is in the rich and powerful, indeed it might be argued that it is found more in deprived sections of society, for Ego is the thing that teases you with what might be yet keeps you exactly where you are, personality intact with the goodies just out of reach.
Ego insists that the solutions do not lie within reach and that all the problems are someone else’s creation. Ego keeps the rich rich, shielding them from any real connection to the Music of Their Life but it also keeps the poor poor by steadily reinforcing the message that ‘it’s too hard’ and ‘what’s the point?’
The Disease of Sophistication
Additionally we are all infected with a virulent disease, the desire to know where the bus is going before we step on it. Now in public transport this is sensible, but in general life it is lunacy. The desire to know where the bus of our life is going manifests in all attempts to see the outcome before deciding whether to commit to the start. This is not only self defeating but impossible because you are not the only piece on the chess board of life. Others are making decisions right now which will affect the outcomes in ways you cannot ever know. The ego-debilitating answer is to simply go as far as you can until you can see further, by which time all the other pieces on the chessboard will have moved as well. But obsessing over the destination of the bus, or the length of the journey, is to move out of earshot of the Music.
Look for Mistakes to Make
Mostly everyone who attends my courses and talks has one thing in common. They are sensitive. They notice the invisible worlds and can read the unspoken words. But they don’t like to fail, because they take it personally. It is interesting that highly egoic people act the same way, yet failure for both groups is inevitable. In fact it is desirable.
At the end of his life I asked my long time mentor, Arthur, how he had come to attain so much knowledge and wisdom? ‘Willingness to make mistakes,’ he replied, and then added, ‘eagerness actually’. I suspect he was onto something. There is all the difference in the world between being sanguine about mistakes made, calling something a teachable moment after the fact, but it’s another thing entirely to actively go looking to make mistakes. The ego has such resistance to this that these words might jar terribly. But within them is the seed of truth, for it is only in the unknown unknowns – as identified by the great philosopher Donald Rumsfeld – and the introduction of novelty that we really ever learn anything new. Without this the Music is just Sound.
The Demons of Noise
Television and newspapers long ago gave up the pretence of providing the impartial reporting of facts. Do not fall into the trap of rejecting news from the Murdoch stable in favour of The Guardian or New York Times. It’s just a different form of bias! The same goes for websites and blogs. It is not that everyone is lying to you, but they are all coming at you through their filters. There is not a media organisation in existence, big or small, that is an exception to this. All are biased propaganda outlets. And that includes your favourite one.
The noise of social media is arguably just as bad, especially now that it has become anti-social media. But it is the default acceptance of these inputs into your life that will disturb the Music of Your Life, drowning it out with other people’s noise. Can we find solace in film and TV drama? No chance. That is just propaganda with a bigger budget.
It is vital that we learn as much as possible in this short life, but the real learning that we ought to be engaged in is learning about ourselves. What we are like, and what we are not like. What we are good at and what we struggle with. Where our good behaviours come out and what triggers our bad behaviours. It is crucial to learn these things about ourselves for if we know ourselves then we will always have a place to start, and a way to turn. The noise may not disappear altogether but we will have the means to counter it.
It behoves everyone to do whatever it takes to see themselves as they really are. There are a million and one systems with which to do this. The naturally brave among us simply jump into life to see if they sink or swim, and then draw their own lessons afterwards. This is in many ways to be admired, but is not for everyone. This is where the value of esoteric systems is revealed – the ability of things like Numerology, Palmistry, Tarot and I Ching – not to tell you what is going to happen, but to tell you more about yourself, right now.
Finally, Dance To The Music
The musical analogy in this little story helps us to break down the barriers between knowing and doing. Gathering information was once a laborious and challenging human task. Now the collection of knowledge is probably easier than it has even been, but our issue is to translate it into action. The self-doubt inherent in all sensitive types is resolved not by merely hearing the Music of Your Life, but by taking the first faltering steps to dance with it, regardless of the noise and sound of others.
Richard Abbot learned about the unseen dimensions of life over a 20 year study period with Arthur Norris. He practises Tarot, Numerology and Palmistry as tools for self-discovery, empowerment and transformation, as well as providing alternative forms of healing. He has written numerous books and courses and has appeared at events in UK, Holland and USA. The Hermitage Development Centre, originally established in 1983 by Arthur Norris & Pat Warrington, now continues under Richard’s guidance www.thehermitage.org.uk. He tweets occasionally @AbbotAnswers, blogs at The Impossibility Factory, and contributes to Enlightening Times and Tarosophist International.
His next book – The Armchair Mystic – is out in Feb 2015.