An intimate peek inside Command Z’s Radical Undoing 101, plus Lance’s adventure field report (hilarious!)
The Radical Undoing 101 Course consists of four components:
1. Physical Exercises.
2. Written Exercises.
3. Cognitive Experiments.
4. Adventures in the world.
The Adventures available to you in 101 can be simple, exciting, frightening, and oddly profound.
Command Z asks:
Why wait for life to shock, propel, or thrust you out of your frustrated routines?
The changes you desire or find yourself afraid to make are available to you right now.
The exercises and format of the 101 course are designed to support you in your courageous undertaking.
Relax your grip.…
Lance’s Radical Undoing 101 Field Report
Go to a grocery store and shop out of other people’s carts.
This adventure comes from the Non-Sequitor Suite:
When I came across this adventure my first reaction was a cringing resistance. I thought to myself;
What’s the point?
What if the shopper punches me in the face?
What if they call security?
These thoughts and emotions gradually defused into:
Why not do it?
What is this Adventure all about for ME?
Where is my fear coming from?
How am I going to accomplish/approach this?
POSSIBLE APPROACHES I CONSIDERED:
1. Avoid eye contact take the goods and run.
2. Say hello take their stuff and await the backlash.
3. Ask if I can take their stuff, when they say “no,” I take it anyway.
4. Say pleasantly “oh, I was looking for those, thanks” and walk away with a smile.
5. Run in, start grabbing shit and deal with the “consequences.”
Ok, Time for Action
As I do before entering most potentially stress inducing social situations, I loosened myself up with undoing exercises, Simple Twist of Face, Atlas Shrugged, and the Laughing Breath.
Ok, I’m ready to go, I’m walking in the Safeway door;
I wandered about the store looking for someone to strike. As I would approach potential “victims” I would feel anxiety rush through my pelvis and feet, my breath shortening. (The more I “undo” the more I have become aware of the physical origins of my fears).
I walked past one young woman kneeling down with her basket a few feet away, I decided I didn’t really want to bother her, in other words I chickened out…no biggie.
I turned the corner and saw an entire family around a cart, I must have been thinking safety in numbers, I have no idea, but I had definitely flicked the switch, I was going to take something from this family… There they are, Bananas!
I inspected their cart and announced pleasantly, “I was looking for these, thanks.” I took them and put them in my basket smiled nodded and walked away. As I walked away I heard the whole family BURST into laughter. Alright! When I first considered this exercise I thought it could end with a fist fight; that was not a bad result at all! I walked away smiling, feeling anxious but more confident.
When my own giggling subsided I spotted another woman with a cart. I felt uneasiness rising in the body and I could feel my heart strongly beating. I approached her and enquired about a bag of potato chips, she replied that that there was a deal-“ four bags for 10 dollars in the other aisle”. I asked if I could have her bag, she replied with an an emphatic “NO”. I reached in her cart and took the bag anyway, I put it in my basket, said “thanks”, smiled and walked away. I heard her shout at my back “Asshole!!”
At this point I began to feel a little anxious, I let the sensations rush over me, I wandered looking for another shopper to “steal” from. I ended up at the cash register. I paid for the bananas and the bag of Lays and headed for the door walking straight past the sour lady glaring directly at me one more time. I repeated my gratefulness to her “thanks again” I sang, as I walked out the automatic doors, barely containing my laughter. Anxious energy and laughter rushed thru me as I walked out into the outside air.
By challenging my boundaries in the grocery store, I acquired loads of information about how I approach other aspects of my life. As the “moral dictates”(lol) of grocery shopping lose their power in my perception, I start to see the arbitrariness of other matrices that exist in my world view. Webs of meaning that exist only in my mind. I also start to see this more and more in others around me, how their imagined boundaries imprison their free expression. It’s one thing to think about and read about it. It’s a completely different thing to experience firsthand.
I have found that Radical Undoing 101 has encouraged me to bump into my own bars and apply heat, freeing up space for me to move about freely in the world. As I begin to strategically and intentionally dynamite myself internally with Undoing techniques I find life opening up, Not just in the grocery store but everywhere. The bars begin to fade into their surroundings as life opens up for me to greet it.
So, What do you make of this?
What does this adventure say about grocery shopping? What does it say about how I approach potentially tense, confrontational situations in my regular life??
And where does my fear arise from? My imagination? Was my life at risk?
What do you make of this?
What thoughts and feelings does the exercise awaken in you?
Do the experiment and tell us about your experience. (Or don’t do it and keep your assumptions about it.)
Or better yet, join in all the fun and change for fucking ever.
Follow the link to get Radical Undoing 101 and join in the fun. 101 is a game/life changer. The forum is available to you for your support along the way.
…We all relax our grip eventually…
With all the information available now, it seems everyone is an expert on everything. It can be tempting to join in the constant hysteria and try to sway or enlighten your company with your own meaningless points of view… Or, perhaps, you prefer to submit in obedience to your nearest alpha-intellect with his or her loud, sharply tongued, finely articulated line of bullshit.
We are wired to bend, flex, hide, and attack for the sake of our own survival,even when our lives aren’t really at stake. And we all have a preferred method of avoiding fear, depending on who’s around.
Command Z invites you to take a step back from the lunacy of power hungry, void filling conversations, take a deep breath, have a little chuckle, and KNOW you don’t have to vomit your opinions all over everyone you meet just to feel important. Nor do you have to be affected by other peoples vomiting.
Command Z invites you to stop giving a fuck.
Not giving a fuck can sometimes carry the stigma of being apathetic, lazy, or cruel. Don’t get confused! All too often, the people who claim not to give a fuck, clearly do give a couple fucks.
Not giving a fuck isn’t about posturing, pandering, criticizing or thinking you are better, tougher, smarter than everyone you meet. Not giving a fuck is a gentle art and is quite effortless in its application.
But first, before you can naturally not give a fuck, it will help you to test out your own personal boundaries a little bit…
To push my own not give a fuck boundaries, I decided to spice things up with a tactic I learned from the Radical Undoing 101 course. An Adventure called Mis-Pronounce Words.
Heres how it goes:
I had a particular manager at my work that I was a little intimidated to deal with. I wasn’t sure how to approach him. We seemed like oil and water, always having tense and awkward conversations.
The 101 Adventure instructed me to engage in a conversation with someone and just start mis-pronouncing words randomly. Thinking about the adventure before hand I thought to myself, piece of cake!
I walked into the manager’s office to go over a couple things on a Tuesday morning. My heart started RACING. You would think I had entered the room to shoot the man!
Clearly my body was identifying this situation as far more threatening than it really was in fact. I felt my gears turning trying to find a moment to slip in a mispronounced word. Fuck, I thought, this is way harder than I thought. But, Eventually, the words started to spill out… B’s became P’s, F’s became S’s. I must have sounded like I had my tongue chopped off.
My brain felt like it was overheating, I became so uncomfortable.
The strange thing is, this guy didn’t even appear to notice! What kind of autopilot was this man on, I wondered. Not even a raised eyebrow! It made me wonder what would have happened if I had gone in and dropped my pants. Would he have even noticed? Would he just ignore that too? Or if I flipped his desk over and spit in his face? What would it take to get a spontaneous response out of this man’s body?
As I left the office and felt something wash over me, I’ll call it “relief.” This shortly turned into a giggle as I asked myself, What the hell is going on here?
There are 52 Tuesday’s in a year. I couldn’t tell you what I did on 51 of them. But I will for the rest of my life remember the day I Mis-Pronounced words. I find this type of experience is pretty common in the CZ work….
Try it yourself; Purposely mis-pronounce words while talking to your friends, co-workers, boss, strangers. See the effect this has on them and you. At the very least it will jolt you out of the mutually shared trance you may have been sharing. And the next time you speak to this person you may feel a little more free. Try it out!
If you’re still asking, “why even do that?” Continue reading…
As I learn to give less and less of a fuck, in a genuine way, I’ve found that I am more and more ready to react and respond to life in more natural ways. Ways that don’t drain me, or leave me feeling discontent, guilty, regretful, special or any other pointless emotions.
The indifferent freedom that kindly… not giving a fuck allows, frees me from being ensnared in other people’s bullshit, no matter who they are, and no matter what their credentials. This opens life up in interesting ways and frees you to live it YOUR way.
Radical Undoing 101 encourages you to make yourself the only priority in your life. The great part is that the people who matter will stick around with you to live a more fun, less judgmental, more adventurous life, while seemingly changing along with you. The people who don’t matter, well, they might not be around to annoy you anymore, or, you may just become incapable of being annoyed.
Radical Undoing 101: take the power back (which you never really lost).
-Lance Leeson. Inner Circle Member. Command Z Consultant.