Is it possible to enjoy everything you experience, regardless of what’s going on around you?
It’s a controversial question, and one that most people will answer automatically with a sour, “NO!”
Others may respond with a “Yes, but…” followed by some banter about how you’ve got to get rid of “negative” emotions first, or only if you prostrate yourself to some guru first, or some prescription or other.
Robert Scheinfeld, the author of the new book, The Ultimate Key to Happiness, says YES. Not only that, but he says we’ve all already experienced what he calls True Happiness hundreds of times in our lives. It’s just that we’ve never looked clearly at what happiness really is, and what it is that prevents us from experiencing it all the time…
As with everything we present through Command Z, don’t take our word for it, and whatever you do, don’t believe these assertions. Instead, look closely, think for yourself, and find out what’s true. The whole purpose of all of this is for you to experience it for yourself.
That’s how we operate at Command Z, and that’s how Robert operates as well. He experiences things first, and then comes back to share those experiences with others so they can experience it for themselves, if they choose.
Below, you can find a player with an MP3 of a discussion between Robert and I about his new book and the experience of abiding True Happiness. You can listen here or download the MP3 with the link below the player.
I’d love to hear your thoughts, reactions, comments, and questions about the discussion, so feel free to leave them in the comments section below.
Thanks again to Robert Scheinfeld for stopping by to share.
Christmas can be a real challenge for many of us and it depends how much we give or don’t give a fuck about the story lines, that we will expand or limit the experiences we have.
I used to celebrate christmas with my family until I moved out from my home, 4 years ago. This year I came back and it has been a whole new experience. It has been an opportunity to share with the closest people I love, however, it can also sometimes turn into confrontation with others and mainly with my own self, lots of questioning and overthinking about my decisions, future projects, etc.
It is a time of mirroring my life and self with the characters I chose to be my family. Sometimes I feel weird and different from them, other times super connected and alike. I get scared and sad when I believe “the facts” of life such as dead or failure.
I could find these experiences as a source of enjoyment and growing or as a way to find my self as victim of the circumstances.
And it is definitely when I believe and get immersed in expectations and story lines, that is really hard to enjoy and be open to what is going on.
On the other side, when I don’t give a fuck about what I think others might be expecting from me and I don’t fight against what it is, I can really see the beauty in every aspect of my creation, I feel more motivated and empower to welcome everything and everyone with no judgments.
One of the undoing exercises that has really supported me in this process of loving without attachments and expectations is to Gag myself from beliefs, fears and blocks.
When I am noticing tension in my breathing and I feel overwhelmed, the gags are excellent to allow my solar plexus to relax and let the air flow easier, helping me to don’t get lost in useless ideas or videos in my head.
Another exercise has been to experience fully the feelings of discomfort, just like the You Meditation: Sensing and Feeling without interpretations.
Later to realize everything has been a creation of my consciousness and appreciate it as it is. In this way, I reclaim the power back and start being the owner and adventurer of my life rather than a victim of external forces.
If you feel interested in learning more of these techniques, sign up in the box below and click here to learn more about Robert Scheinfeld and how to start enjoying everything.
Finally, we’ll be putting on our final Victim to Adventurer: Radical Undoing and Energized Hypnosis workshop starting Saturday December 27, 2014. Click here to read all about it. We’ll help you shed your post-holiday blues and start living your life like the permanent adventure it can be!
From Garrett: I’d like to personally welcome Richard Abbot to the Command Z blog. It’s quite rare to hear as refreshing and inspiring a voice as Richard’s echoing from the desert of the seeker. While my personal definition of ego differs from his, I’m confident after talking with him that the disparity is semantic rather than philosophical.
Thanks again for providing us with this fresh, dynamic defense of the personal adventure of individuality. Without further introduction, take it away, Richard.
“Music never goes away. It is always available. But we are not always available to the music”
– Robert Fripp
For music, read planetary bio-feedback, ancestral DNA, precognition, Spirit, Source or the Cosmos. If you prefer then simply call it God or the Universe, but whatever name you use it amounts to the same thing – there is a tune playing, throughout your life, that only you can hear.
Your Music. Your Life.
The Music of Life is different for everyone. It is Your Music, not The Music, because none of us are able to hear the same thing. The basic fact that everyone is different rarely excites us now but it should, for we have not yet scratched the surface of what it really means. Take it on four levels.
In the body. Everyone appears externally different – fingerprints, retinal scans, facial features. Yet they are also internally different. The precise way that our bone structure knits together with our muscles differs from person to person and although we persist in categorising people by blood group, the true reality is that every individual has a unique blood signature. Michael Jackson was one hell of an entertainer, but when he sang Cause we are all the same, the blood inside of me is inside of you he was mistaken, seven billion times over.
With the emotions. Everyone sweats and cries in different ways at different times. Different triggers affect everyone differently. Regardless of the desire to focus on common responses there is no standard emotional reaction to any event.
Through the mind. It has long been known in the police force that if you take twenty witness statements at the scene of any incident you will get twenty different versions of events. Most of the differences will be subtle and at the margins, but some of them will be significant. ‘He ran toward me’ says one. ‘He did not move’ says the other. It is not that people are lying, they genuinely saw it, or more accurately they processed it differently. ‘I’ll meet you at 2pm’ she says, turning up at 2.30pm, crying out ‘I said 2.30pm, why weren’t you listening?!’ This is not a function of the quantum ideas of the observer created universe where everything is whatever we think it is. This is a function of individual difference, where everyone can see something slightly, subtly different, and is able to make a slightly different interpretation.
Invisibly. In spite of attempts by religion and politics there is really only one way to measure morals that is relative to the individual. This is not a recipe for chaos, for the crazy lone gunman does not go out and shoot the town up because of the voices in his head. He does it because of the lack of voices in his own head and the presence of voices from other people’s heads – the propaganda, the role playing, the endless comparison and blame game which he has swallowed whole.
These four kinds of individual difference combine to form the unique, irreplaceable individual that you now are. But the need to find and develop one’s own way should not be confused with selfish individualism. The truth is that by recognising and accentuating individual difference we are likely to become more peaceful and more connected. You can – potentially – do, feel, think or say a specific something, in a particular way that I cannot. If this could be recognised, and even if you have not yet fulfilled that potential then I would become immediately invested in your progress. The illusion of sameness is the root of all killing; it is done because we are persuaded that our lives do not matter. But they do, for it we lose you we lose something valuable that cannot be replicated by another. To disadvantage you is to disadvantage me.
But resistance to this idea is strong. Many people are deeply invested in their sameness, for it is a comfortable place to hide. This is especially true in revolutionary and alternative sub-cultures, who rail against orthodoxy only to land up creating their own orthodoxy! Many people see sameness and call it equality, togetherness or community, and it is the place to be if you cannot see that your contribution is any different than anyone else’s, even if you have not really tried to look.
Many people assume (because they have been told to) that there is one answer to every question and that it is a matter of getting it right, and then getting everyone to agree. Nothing could be further from the truth. Sure, truth exists, but most matters are a product of the individuals view. You would be surprised how differently people see the most mundane things. Never assume that people either agree or disagree with you.
Having said all this we must recognise that we are in the midst of a long standing war against the individual. The educational establishment is firmly wedded to rubbing out individual difference. They begrudgingly recognise differing learning styles and preach the doctrine of diversity but only as a means to an end – which is the indoctrination of all children with the same, in their world ‘right’, views. They can call this ‘common core’ or ‘national curriculum’ but it amounts to the same thing – conformity of behaviour, appearance, reaction and thought.
The medical and psych establishment have taken it one step further by their ruthless diagnosis of all deviations from proscribed norms, in turn allowing pharmaceutical companies to join the assault by selling expensive corrections to wrongness. The diagnoses are given names like ME, CFS, OCD, ADHD and Autism – wicked labels of torture people that continually redefine ‘different’ as ‘broken’.
The media supports this attack by its promotion of a manufactured professional outrage industry and even peace loving hippies have unwittingly joined in the assault proclaiming that individuality is ego and all hard edges must be rubbed out, while the corporate and academic worlds are no more pro- individual than they ever were. Statements such as ‘wear what you like to work’ are meaningless when you cannot actually wear what you like. When fear is the dominant meme you can be sure that individuality will take a back seat. And thus the Music of Your Life is extinguished.
Do What You Must, Not Just Whatever You Like
At this point I should make clear that when I speak of uniqueness I am talking about HIGHER INDIVIDUALITY, individuality with a purpose, that allows and does not restrict others individuality. Neither selfish grasping, nor dog-eat-dog, but evolutionary and expansive.
The absence of any stab at our HIGHER INDIVIDUALITY leaves a vacuum which is filled by role playing. How easily we adopt those roles and how quickly they mask our special individual contribution to life. How quickly we become merely Mum, Dad, Nurse, Doctor, Soldier, Programmer, Writer, Socialist or Conservative. The labels we scrabble for when introduced at parties block the Music that is waiting to sweep you on, for as soon as you plug into the role you cannot help but adopt the Rules of the Role, whether they are appropriate for your circumstances or not. The Music of Life will only be heard by those making an attempt to discover who they are and what they are for.
The quest for a sign along the road of life is doomed because if we are not careful they are simply confirmation biases – we see the signs we want to see, not the ones we need to see. And of course once we have passed a sign and gone down the wrong road it’s too late. It’s only in computer games that we get the message ‘you’re going the wrong way’. Signs are external, a creation of someone else, and have no bearing on your life, except to conform it to others’ requirements.
Check Your Ego
Ego is as prevalent in the poor and needy as it is in the rich and powerful, indeed it might be argued that it is found more in deprived sections of society, for Ego is the thing that teases you with what might be yet keeps you exactly where you are, personality intact with the goodies just out of reach.
Ego insists that the solutions do not lie within reach and that all the problems are someone else’s creation. Ego keeps the rich rich, shielding them from any real connection to the Music of Their Life but it also keeps the poor poor by steadily reinforcing the message that ‘it’s too hard’ and ‘what’s the point?’
The Disease of Sophistication
Additionally we are all infected with a virulent disease, the desire to know where the bus is going before we step on it. Now in public transport this is sensible, but in general life it is lunacy. The desire to know where the bus of our life is going manifests in all attempts to see the outcome before deciding whether to commit to the start. This is not only self defeating but impossible because you are not the only piece on the chess board of life. Others are making decisions right now which will affect the outcomes in ways you cannot ever know. The ego-debilitating answer is to simply go as far as you can until you can see further, by which time all the other pieces on the chessboard will have moved as well. But obsessing over the destination of the bus, or the length of the journey, is to move out of earshot of the Music.
Look for Mistakes to Make
Mostly everyone who attends my courses and talks has one thing in common. They are sensitive. They notice the invisible worlds and can read the unspoken words. But they don’t like to fail, because they take it personally. It is interesting that highly egoic people act the same way, yet failure for both groups is inevitable. In fact it is desirable.
At the end of his life I asked my long time mentor, Arthur, how he had come to attain so much knowledge and wisdom? ‘Willingness to make mistakes,’ he replied, and then added, ‘eagerness actually’. I suspect he was onto something. There is all the difference in the world between being sanguine about mistakes made, calling something a teachable moment after the fact, but it’s another thing entirely to actively go looking to make mistakes. The ego has such resistance to this that these words might jar terribly. But within them is the seed of truth, for it is only in the unknown unknowns – as identified by the great philosopher Donald Rumsfeld – and the introduction of novelty that we really ever learn anything new. Without this the Music is just Sound.
The Demons of Noise
Television and newspapers long ago gave up the pretence of providing the impartial reporting of facts. Do not fall into the trap of rejecting news from the Murdoch stable in favour of The Guardian or New York Times. It’s just a different form of bias! The same goes for websites and blogs. It is not that everyone is lying to you, but they are all coming at you through their filters. There is not a media organisation in existence, big or small, that is an exception to this. All are biased propaganda outlets. And that includes your favourite one.
The noise of social media is arguably just as bad, especially now that it has become anti-social media. But it is the default acceptance of these inputs into your life that will disturb the Music of Your Life, drowning it out with other people’s noise. Can we find solace in film and TV drama? No chance. That is just propaganda with a bigger budget.
It is vital that we learn as much as possible in this short life, but the real learning that we ought to be engaged in is learning about ourselves. What we are like, and what we are not like. What we are good at and what we struggle with. Where our good behaviours come out and what triggers our bad behaviours. It is crucial to learn these things about ourselves for if we know ourselves then we will always have a place to start, and a way to turn. The noise may not disappear altogether but we will have the means to counter it.
It behoves everyone to do whatever it takes to see themselves as they really are. There are a million and one systems with which to do this. The naturally brave among us simply jump into life to see if they sink or swim, and then draw their own lessons afterwards. This is in many ways to be admired, but is not for everyone. This is where the value of esoteric systems is revealed – the ability of things like Numerology, Palmistry, Tarot and I Ching – not to tell you what is going to happen, but to tell you more about yourself, right now.
Finally, Dance To The Music
The musical analogy in this little story helps us to break down the barriers between knowing and doing. Gathering information was once a laborious and challenging human task. Now the collection of knowledge is probably easier than it has even been, but our issue is to translate it into action. The self-doubt inherent in all sensitive types is resolved not by merely hearing the Music of Your Life, but by taking the first faltering steps to dance with it, regardless of the noise and sound of others.
Richard Abbot learned about the unseen dimensions of life over a 20 year study period with Arthur Norris. He practises Tarot, Numerology and Palmistry as tools for self-discovery, empowerment and transformation, as well as providing alternative forms of healing. He has written numerous books and courses and has appeared at events in UK, Holland and USA. The Hermitage Development Centre, originally established in 1983 by Arthur Norris & Pat Warrington, now continues under Richard’s guidance www.thehermitage.org.uk. He tweets occasionally @AbbotAnswers, blogs at The Impossibility Factory, and contributes to Enlightening Times and Tarosophist International.
His next book – The Armchair Mystic – is out in Feb 2015.
Remember those old commercials for Eggo Waffles?
This one is particularly funny, even a little disturbing:
I’m afraid to get into the whole Ego thing because words fail at this every time, and yet the emptiness of words hints at something you already know–something you can’t describe either.
Somehow, the book The Self-Overcoming of Nihilism ended up on our trip to Bogota, Colombia, from where you’re receiving this email right now.
I’ve read it before. Many times, in fact. But what the hell does this have to do with the real secret about the Ego I’ve set myself up to transmit to you?
And what’s all this about transcending your life as a victim of circumstances and becoming an adventurer in the truest sense of the word?
Worry not, dear Jedi; I’ll get to that in a moment.
First, some background. The only way to understand this great secret of the ego is to live it yourself–in your body and your own perception.
The understanding is just a byproduct of the lived experience. Once you’ve lived it, the understanding is unnecessary; a trifle.
(Ready to live it for yourself? Join us for the next Hypnosis and Undoing Workshop Series…Maybe the last one ever, before we reveal the new direction of Command Z and Art of Not Giving a Fuck.)
One way to begin to grasp what I’m telling you here is to see clearly the difference between Command Z and the mass of self-development, religion, practices, spirituality, and all the rest.
Everything you’ll learn and experience in Command Z gets you back to the ground of you yourself. You as a body. You as the Ego, exactly as you find yourself flowing right now, and now, and now. And NO, ego is not a problem. Far from it.
How many times have you heard in the New Age and spiritual milieu that you’ve got to kill your Ego?
Did it ever occur to you to question that widely accepted–and widely unquestioned–assumption?
It’s the great battle cry of all the wounded egos gathered together in a bomb shelter hiding out from the glory of reality and a life of endless exploration. Hiding out in service of an abstract idea that they pretend to swear subservience to.
The funny thing is, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with your Ego. Which means there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you, right there, as you are now, and now, and now, and now. Now, why did I say now so many times like that?
Because, the Ego is only flowing, only playing, only turning everything into it’s pastime.
What you’ve had beaten out of you since you were a tiny little baby is the ability to enjoy a life of play, of exploration, of adventure.
The fucking beautiful, excellent, amazing thing is that you’ve never lost that life. It never went anywhere. Part of the adventure of Ego is the act of forgetting about the life of adventure and exploring the experience of victimhood. Of believing in something greater than yourself. Of creating concepts and ideas and Gods and morals and ethics and then pretending to serve them.
Of course, you actually serve no one. In reality, everything serves you. You’ve just forgotten how to see it.
Check out these bits from the book I mentioned above:
“All truth in itself is dead, a corpse; it is alive only in the way that my lungs are alive–namely, in proportion to my own vitality.” (118)
And further, about the Ego: “…nothing could erase the self’s being the self–this bodily self, with it’s inherent I-ness, it’s ownness. Beaten down by God, the state, society, and humanity, it nevertheless slowly began to raise its head again.” (116)
And finally, “the Ego claims its uniqueness and ownness, embraces within itself all other things and ideas, assimilates and appropriates them to itself as their owner, and thus reaches the awareness of the unique one who has appropriated everything within his own I-ness and has made the world the content of his own life.” (116)
By negating all standpoints outside the self and rejecting any idea, belief, expectation, or seeking of something higher than self, you end up on a standpoint ofnothing.
From that lack of all standpoints, you, the Ego, finally remember the freedom you were born in, which arises as “a nonchalant acceptance of things which appropriates them as the life-content of the self and enjoys the life of the self in all things.” (103)
So remember, the next time God, Truth, justice, morality, expectations, ideas, beliefs, the state, or any other concept or abstraction seem to bring you down–Enjoy the life of the self in all things.
For that is your freedom to enjoy. And there is nowhere you won’t find it, once you remember to simply look.
And the next time someone tells you you’ve got to kill your ego, you can enjoy a deep belly laugh at the joke you just made. Then shout, “Leggo my Ego!”
And for now, dearest Ego, I bid you goodnight and sweet dreams. You can rest easy knowing that your opportunity through Command Z is always to move from the victim of circumstances to the owner of your life and the adventurer and explorer of your world.
PS: My Rabbi friend used to say, “Wherever E-goes, I go.” Ha!
And by “their attention” I mean virtually ANYONE you need or want to build quick rapport and deep connection with.
Assuming you’re not the Hunchback of Notre Dame or the modern day Elephant Man, this simple approach to people skills will put you miles ahead of the other guys and gals using millions of tricks, lines, and complicated systems to *fake* connection with people.
With this “trick,” you’ll find you don’t really need to worry about your people skills, because you’ll be a natural. Not only that, but you won’t be faking it.
You’ll be deeply connecting with people, and those people will respect and admire you for it. You’ll respect and admire yourself, too, because you’re not relying on some sleazy system to live your life by.
I’ll tell you exactly how to do it in a moment, but first I have something important I need you to know.
I’ve spent thousands of hours researching, experimenting, adventuring, and exploring endless techniques, methods, concepts, systems, and approaches to life change, personal evolution, and ultimately–transcendence of the normal human victimhood.
The good news is that–looking back over the last few years of Command Z, I’m proud to say that everything you’ll find here delivers big-time results.
The bad news is that I can finally see the big mistake I’ve been making all this time.
I’ve tried to reach out to too many people, at much too low of prices.
Can you guess why that is?
The amount of value I can offer the individual ready for true transcendence in his or her life is astronomical. What I’ve put together can free you up from a life of servitude, break the chains of family, society, conditioning, habits, fear, and suffering.
That’s just the tip of the sinking titanic.
Even more, if you diligently apply yourself to the Command Z training, explorations, and adventures, you’ll find out for yourself just how beautiful, transcendent, mysterious, deeply satisfying, and joyous your own life can be.
So I’ve been a complete asshole to both myself, and to you, my dear friend.
Because making these grand promises and then slapping a ten dollar, hundred dollar, or even thousand dollar pricetag on them does everyone a great disservice.
What I have to offer will give your entire life a radical, extreme makeover–inside and out. But not when you get one session and then spend another year deliberating if you’re going to make changes or just sink back into your own suffering.
This takes a deep, potent, diligent commitment to go as far as it’s possible for a human being to go. To explore the final frontier that is your inner and outer life. To drop your problems and baggage to finally be free and start exploring the life you’ve always known was there, but never knew how to access.
This is just the beginning of a major transformation of Command Z, and needless to say, what comes next is going to be very expensive, and will require a massive commitment–as it should, if I’m to honestly reflect the value of what I have to offer you.
With that in mind, I urge you to dive into the various training options while they’re still available. Everyone who has access now to our workshops, trainings (ten bucks? I’m an idiot!), intensives (my personal favorite), and courses like Undoing 101 will maintain access for life.
That’s my ongoing gift to you for seeing the value in YOURSELF and your deepest potentials, even while I’ve dramatically undervalued these offerings.
No more discounts. No more haggling. No more fucking around. This is your life we’re talking about here. Not just some weekend exploration you put down and forget about while sinking back into the doldrums and quicksand and the swamps of sadness screaming “ARTEX” while your trusty steed dies of sorrow.
No. This is for the handful of people on this planet who want serious, permanent transcendence of the standard drama suffering package most people are dealt at birth.
No more pulling punches. This stuff really works. Reliably. Over and over with every single person who puts in the effort and is willing to face a WHOLE and BEAUTIFUL life with a smile and a deep belly laugh–allt he way through hell, if that’s what’s required.
The price will be high–but the return on your investment is out of this world, off the charts, and completely within your reach.
One more thing before I tell you the stupidly simple trick to build rapport and deep connection with other people. I’m putting on this event for free (again, I’m a fool…) on Saturday, so if you want to learn some new techniques for stealing back your time, your mind, and your very life, then I’ll see you there.
Now for that trick I mentioned.
You better listen deeply to me here if you want to get the most out of it. I’m completely serious when I tell you that this is ridiculously simple. So simple that you might just laugh it off and never gain the insane benefits from actually applying it.
Here it is:
Listen deeply to people. Get them talking about their hopes, fears, dreams, and loves. It can be anything. Clothes. Hobbies. Cars. Sports. Vacations. Places. Stories. Whatever the hell you hear them talking about, just give it the space it deserves.
Most people NEVER feel truly listened to. If you’re the one person in their lives who takes the time to truly listen, and to make them feel important, they will love you. They will remember you. They will want to make you happy. They will feel instantly happier, healthier, and more satisfied with their lives–simply from you taking the time to deeply listen.
Don’t ever take my word for it. Try it yourself and you’ll experience exactly what I mean.
This is a huge secret that most people will never have the patience and willingness to actually apply.
When’s the last time you deeply listened to someone? When’s the last time you felt like someone deeply listened to you?
Hit reply to this email and let me know your thoughts and feelings about it. I truly love to hear from you, and to engage in some deeper dialog than what’s possible in this format.
Talk to you very soon with even bigger news.
For now, keep undoing yourself, enjoying your life, and laughing your ass off every chance you get–let the haters be damned.
Best (of all possible worlds),
“Do you own your time?” he asked me.
I sat there for a moment, stunned.
Then it hit me like a bus plummeting off a cliff in a Latin American jungle somewhere: YES.
That affirmation took almost 22 years to attain.
Sadly, the driver on that particular Northern California trip wasn’t exactly the owner of her own time, so I had the choice between staying longer or getting an easy ride back to Eugene, Oregon, where I was living at the time.
Just like Patrick Jane–TV’s The Mentalist–in this scene, I’ve realized that I’m always on my own time, no matter what the circumstances appear to be:
You can realize that for yourself too.
The obstacles that get in your way are a lot easier to transcend than they seem in the dark recesses of your mind. The Inner Critic has a way of amplifying it’s critiques to make you feel small, weak, and helpless.
But you’re way more powerful than you think.
That’s what the Art of Not Giving a Fuck is all about.
So remember, use the code blackfriday
And you’ll get 50% off any and all workshops you want at the NGF site, through Monday.
It’s high time you owned your own time, and each of the NGF workshops, in their own way, will show you how to do exactly that.
In other news, I just started up a G+ group called Command Z: From Victim to Adventurer. Just click on that button to ask to join, and I’ll add you right away. I’m adding new, cool stuff everyday for you to watch, listen, read, and enjoy.
I look forward to all the cool and fun stuff you want to share there as well.
If you have a suggestion for more categories, just let me know. Otherwise, the current ones should give you plenty of new experiments and explorations in transcendence to play with.
Speaking of transcendence, once you join the G+ group, you’ll also see that this coming Saturday, you’re invited to a free workshop on Radical Transcendence. Can’t wait to see you there.
PS: Oh, if you were wondering who asked me that question about time, it was my friend E.J. Gold, when we visited him for a week a few years ago. One of the most expansive weeks I’d had in a long time.